So Stacey and I have set our wedding date.
December 4, 2015.
That's right folks, I'm getting married in less than a year and a half!!! Awesome.
I've never been a big wedding person. Sure, I've had the odd fantasy here and there about what my wedding would be like if I had an unlimited budget. (In case you're curious, it would be at Disney World in Cinderella's castle). But I never have really gotten into it.
Now it seems is the time to get into it. I have a few ideas, most of them very "wedding-on-a-budget"-y and feminist.
Anyway, my point for this post is that I don't want to be a "bridezilla" or a "bootcamp bride". I want to focus on the marriage, not the wedding.
However, I do have a lot of weight to lose, and I will be trying to lose a lot in the next year and a half.
I have no doubt that at some point in the next year I will start to feel the pressure to look thin on my wedding day.
In fact, I already feel the pressure. But it's coming from ME, not the wedding industry (well, 75% me, 25% wedding industry. I mean, do they even make gorgeous wedding dresses that have sleeves?). I have a strong desire to get back to my pre-grief size before I walk down the aisle.
I have already lost 9 out of the 100 pounds. I have 91 pounds to lose, and 73 weeks until my wedding.
BUT I should probably get my dress fitted at least a month in advance, so lets say 69 weeks.
So that's me losing an average of 1.5 pounds a week. Is it impossible? No. Is it easy? No. Will it be something that I regret doing? No.
So here I go. I'm going to try to lose the grief weight before my wedding.
In reasonable ways, like tracking my food on My Fitness Pal regularly, exercising most days, and eating mostly healthy foods (I'm going to just do what feels right, but probably will allow myself a little bit of junk food every day alongside my healthy meals - no 90/10 rule or anything).
Of course, if I find that I can't lose the weight as quickly as I'd like to, I'm not going to give up. I will let my body do what it's meant to do. If I weigh 75 pounds less, or 50 pounds less, or 25 pounds less on my wedding day, I will make peace with that.
Because at the end of the day, I'm more excited about the marriage than I am about the wedding.
And don't tell Stacey, but this is totally the dress that I want (click image to visit the Etsy page)!!!
I am going to come up with a fun photo logo for future posts about my "Bride Boot Camp" and I may change the name to something a little more creative. ;-)
Married peeps: Did you set a weight loss goal for your wedding date?
4 comments:
I did! I wanted to be at 200lbs (down -25lbs) for my wedding. I almost got there... it got close to the wedding and the motivation disappeared!
I got down to about 208lb before the big day... the hardest part is staying motivated afterwards... I've gained all the weight, and more since then!
I did set a weight loss goal, but in the end, didn't end up losing what I wanted. I guess it's because I feel like for me, weight loss is an internal thing, the decision to start and work on ME, while the wedding was an external factor. I wish you all the success in the world and I'll cheer you on! I personally only lost 15 pounds or so in preparation for my day, but if I can give you one word of advice, just ENJOY your day. You only get it once, so who cares what size you are. You will be beautiful and Stacey will think you're glowing.
Glad to have you back, Leah. :)
Congrats on the engagement! I was already a good weight for me when I bought my dress and then gained 5 pounds before the wedding. :P I'll just call it my "happy marriage" weight. Try not to stress too much about the weight you want to lose. You're going to look gorgeous no matter what size you are. Just enjoy the engagement and the wedding day. It'll go by faster than you realize.
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