So many good things happened in 2014, and I'm going to stick with the good memories exclusively for this post, as I don't feel like reminiscing about the bad at the moment. Plus, one day years from now when I re-read this post, I will think that maybe only good things happened! Except one bad thing that has sort of come to define the second half of my year will just have to be mentioned.
Here's what happened in my life in 2014:
1) I finished my final semester of school at the University of Memphis!
I love being a student, and I miss it fiercely. And more importantly, I planned my final semester out well, finishing most of my least favorite requirements *cough*foreign language and natural sciences* cough* earlier.
I took an acting class, a legal writing class, a gym class, and more. I discovered a passion for African American history. The only "difficult" requirement that I had left was statistics, and I ended up doing very well. This was the first straight A semester since Mom died, and I was very proud of myself for boosting my GPA back up enough to earn a cum laude beside my name in the graduation program.
2) I went to Grief Camp for adults.
|the stepping stone that I made for Mom|
It was a weekend program offered by the hospital where Mom died. I spent two days surrounded by others going through the same thing as me, and it was truly the turning point for me in my grief journey. Just knowing that there are so many other people in real pain, missing loved ones who died too soon... something about that feeling of community really helped me.
I'm not saying that everything immediately got all better, but since that weekend, things did start to finally seem... well... not so unbearable. And even though I will probably never see those folks again, just knowing that they exist helps so much. We talked, we cried, we laughed, we made crafts dedicated to our loved ones, and we just plain bonded in such a special way. I will never forget that weekend.
3) I graduated cum laude from the University of Memphis!
I freaking did it. This is an accomplishment that became even more impressive somehow after Mom died. Because I could have quit, but I refused to give up. Even though I spent the better part of a year both crying constantly and going to class, I stuck with it. And I'm so glad that I did, because even though I hate the grades that I got that first semester back, I wonder if taking a semester off to grieve would have not just pushed my graduation back, but made me decide to never go back.
I love that I graduated. I love that I am now a political scientist.
4) Stacey proposed to me! We are engaged!!!
And in less than a year, we can stop living in sin. It's hard to believe how long I've had this man in my life sometimes. We met in late 2007, and started dating in early 2008 (the year that we moved in together, too). We've had our ups and downs like any couple. We ALWAYS have each other's backs. I think our biggest strength as a couple is our mutual respect and support. I love this man, and I look forward to having a big party celebrating that love with our friends and family.
5) We moved to Nashville!
After graduation and getting engaged, we packed up a u-haul and moved a three hour drive away from Memphis, to a part of Tennessee that I actually really love. This city is filled with progress, and diversity, and entertainment. I love it here! For the first time in my life, I can actually say that I'm happy to live in this state. To each their own, but for me: Nashville rules, Memphis drools.
6) I broke my leg.
Yep. Badly. I was about to start a new job, and instead, two days before the start date I roll my ankle in a parking lot hole and crash down so hard that I needed surgery. I had my final follow up appointment today, nearly 6 months later. I was just now given the go-ahead for regular walking. It's been a rough few months, to say the very least.
I was unable to walk for two and a half months. During this time, I was also unemployed, having lost my job before it began. So on top of the severe pain and handicap, Stacey and I suffered badly financially and almost lost our home. Thankfully, some friends and family helped us get through it. Seriously, if you are one of them, and are reading this, once again THANK YOU SO MUCH YOU SAVED US.
7) I visited Joel and we went to Central Perk!
For my 30th birthday, Stacey got me tickets to see my brother! Joel is an amazing composer/lyricist who lives in NYC, which is my favorite city ever (so far). We went to Central Perk and sat on the big orange couch. If any of you don't know the significance of either thing in the previous sentence, I just don't even have words for you. You are either really young or don't appreciate one of the best TV shows ever created. It's okay, though. I'll be there for you.
9) I got a really good job that I love.
I work for a personal injury law firm here in Nashville, and I love it so much. My coworkers are amazing people. And my boss is supportive and encouraging. I have never worked in an environment like this before, and I love it. I'm the intake coordinator, which basically means I talk to potential clients first, and pitch the cases to the attorneys for review. I love it, but hope to work my way up in the company one day.
So that's my 2014 in a nutshell. It was a pretty good year, if you go by the saying "all's well that ends well".
How was your 2014?